Relationships, relationships, relationships

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We have been counting down our last days here and they are full of activity!  Packing, cleaning, more packing, etc.  Many of you have done this so you know exactly how busy it can be. I have however attempted to take time out for friends and family.  It is impossible to see everyone that you wish to see before departing.  Luckily with technology we can all still stay in touch, but I find myself desperate to see people right now.  It makes me realize how I take for granted so often the great relationships that I have in my life.  I tend to get busy and think next week, next month, etc. But right now I don’t have next week or next month.  Sure I will be back to visit, but I won’t be living here so there is a finality to so much of this here.

I am so happy for the time I have gotten to spend with friends–the lunches, coffees. etc.  I regret however that I have not paid more attention to this area of my life.  I have “improved” since making the relationship aspect be a part of the commandments for this year, but I am seeing how wide of a gap there is between where I am and where I want to be on this one.  I am hoping that a lesson learned here is a “do not procrastinate” lesson!  I am moving– no one is dying or has died, but things do happen and change.  Every day I need to make sure that I have connected with someone that is meaningful to me and my life.  I hope to take this lesson with me and to this location/life style paradigm shift and that I will wholeheartedly embrace the people that are currently present in my life.  That means friends here, that means new friends that I am not aware of yet.

How do you make time for relationships in your life?  Do you ever feel that you hit the mark on this one???

Paradigm Shift Nudge (PUSH)

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Sometimes no matter how much you try to shift you need a nudge or a push to really get the shifting going.  I have shifted in many regards so far this year but another biggie is happening as well.

I have had a great contract with a great company for about 3 years now.  Yep, that is a long contract.  It is sometimes fulltime, sometimes part, but it has been steady and that has been great.  It has however kept me from growing my other business perhaps as quickly as I would like, but it has been a real blessing in so many regards.

There have been whisperings of budget constraints/challenges, but yesterday I got the word..”unfortunately we have to seriously cut back your hours; we are over budget.” I still have a couple things to finish up and there will be some lingering of a few hours here and there but for the immediate future it will be almost non existent; particularly after October.  Sure it could change and there are some working towards changing this but I am not and cannot count on that.

So, besides moving this month out of state (our date for complete transition is Oct.1), I now find myself being able to focus on other things, other dreams, other avenues.  Although I am a bit scared and thrown, I am also very excited!  So today is mine. 🙂 and I have been taking advantage!  Catching up on personal things, focusing on how I can gain other clients for my business and also looking at the great opportunity I now have of not only moving but I could totally shift my focus on my other business should I choose.  I suspect the latter will be the path.

So yesterday some doors began to gently close (not lock, but shut a bit); but this morning my head is spinning with hope and possibilities. When I put out to the universe I wanted this to be a year of the paradigm shift, I had no idea what it would hold.  I still don’t..several months still ahead and energy is in full force. Exciting times!

Play vs. Fun

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We played this weekend.  Yep, there I said it. We played.  Not “we had fun this weekend”, but “we played this weekend”.  The difference?  There is no motive for play except well play.  Nothing gets checked off a list when you play except the item that says “play.”  I can have fun doing so many things.  I can have fun cleaning my house if I am in the right mood and have some good tunes playing.  I can have fun at work.  I can have fun packing boxes for our move. AND that is so good to find fun inside the things I need to do.  I love that I can make most things fun and enjoyable.  What I have trouble doing is not doing anything “worthwhile”–that is something on a list that has an end result.  I am “play challenged” no doubt.  I think some of that is from my upbringing.  Some of that thinking is just because of the person that I am-I am a doer.  So for me to say “no work all play” this weekend is pretty monumental.

AND playing was fun too!  We hit some places we have visited before and reminisced.  We ate some great food; splurged on dessert.  We watched kids jumping in a fountain and playing for almost an hour; we just laughed and enjoyed that so much. We roamed in and out of some little shops and bought a couple things for our new house. We found some patio furniture on clearance and bought it! We wondered the city as if we were tourists and took pictures.

At first glance back, I would say we accomplished nothing this weekend since we played so much.  But that would be wrong.  We laughed, breathed, walked, slept, enjoyed the heat and the sunshine (instead of just AC), loved being together, talked alot, took great pictures to remember our weekend by, bonded, reminisced, dreamed and loved.  That my friend is quite alot accomplished in just one weekend of play!

How do you play?

Back “home” today

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After a couple of weeks at our new home and experiencing so much peace, beauty, simplicity (even in the chaos of a move), returning back has been a shake up.  This is my first day back in the house that is for sale.  Busy city, busy street, busy house, busyness everywhere and how quickly I just revert back.  Horns blowing, cars passing, phones ringing, rush, rush, rush. Long lists today of “got to’s”, running errands and still have some to run. Not feeling in synch, not feeling single threaded, not feeling grounded–chaos has reentered…………yuck!

It is funny how a location can throw you into habits.  Sort of like when you go back home to visit and all of the sudden you are the kid you were when you were 10 and you believe it so you act like it and everyone teases you the same, treats you the same, calls out your shortcomings the same.  If you always lost things when you were a kid, you of course still do.  If you were a little clumsy as a kid (aren’t so many of us?) you of are still so klutzy.  If you weren’t the smartest kid in the household (grade card wise) you still don’t quite “get it” (even though you are a successful adult and your performance reviews “prove it!” darn it.

We are so programmed to respond. It is not just personality.  As a matter of fact, many times I respond contrary to my values and my personality in certain situations.  It is surroundings…what is going on around me influences me so much.  Sometimes more than others; sometimes not at all.  BUT today it has ALOT.  I think part of it is expectation.  I expected to miss Indiana, I expected it to be crazy here, and I resp0nded accordingly.  I think part of it is wanting to go back so my mind is full of other thoughts that keep me from being focused on what I should be focused on.  I think part of it is that this does not feel so much like home anymore.  So much “stuff” is at the new house.  It is sterile here–house is all “staged” with non descriptive things. The new house feels more like home even though I have been in this house 11 years vs. 11 weeks with the other.

They say home is where the heart is.  Maybe as I am moving my stuff to Indiana pieces of my heart are going as well.  The things I am moving are things I love, things that make me feel comfy, secure and like it is home.  That is good to note-it really is about what is inside the 4 walls rather than the 4 walls.  That means stuff but also people, memories, etc.  As I take pictures and things I cherish the memories and love are transferring as well.  I am making that home.

I need to figure out how to still feel ok here right now.  I still have a few weeks and I need to keep focused, grounded, joyful and peaceful.  Maybe I need to focus on the memories that still surround me here; the love I have experienced here and the beauty that this place too offers even in it’s staged existence.  I need to keep feeling the heart and soul of this place; it will never completely move out of here for me so I need to use it now, count on it now, turn to it now to help me through the messiness of moving and going back and forth.  I need it to help me stay grounded here too while looking forward to a new beginning as well.

 

 

 

I’m back and shifting

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It has been so long since I have visited this blog.  I miss it and not quite sure how I let it slip so far away. But here I go, back at it.

Paradigm shifting for me is really happening.  I am so excited to have spent the last 2 weeks in our new home. Living out in the country really changes one’s perspective.  I feel better, more relaxed, focused, healthier, just BETTER!

The sunrises and sunsets are more meaningful to me here.  Perhaps because I can actually see them, but maybe it is because I take the time to see them out here.  I don’t need an alarm here in the new place; I just wake with the sun ready to go.  But not “go like in a panic go”—go with enthusiasm of the new day and the beauty that surrounds me. Playing with the dog seems like a “must do”, hanging bird feeders is just as important as logging on and checking email, watering my hanging plants is a daily occurrence of care and nurturing rather than a last ditch effort to save neglected dying plants.

Simple things are not simple here–they are complex, meaningful and greatly fullfilling.  It is those things that seemed so huge before that now seem to fade into the not so important things that used to overtake my being.

Don’t get me wrong, I am still working, still productive, still dreaming, still planning, but I feel like it is in better perspective.  The “work me” takes a break to eat lunch looking at the pond from the deck, the evening sees the laptop  being turned off so as to not miss a sunset, watching Jasmine run in the morning while the sun comes up breathes life into the new day.

Yes, this shifting is good; I feel like I am in the discovery phase looking forward to whatever it brings. Glad to connect with you again; what’s going on in your world?

Paradigm “Earthquake”

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My paradigm just isn’t shaking but it is in major earthquake mode!  So much so that I have not even sat down to blog for a few moments.  When I committed to a paradigm shift in January and made goals around it how was I supposed to know that the Universe would be so in favor of this that all things would move and shift and change before the 1st 1/2 of the year was even over!  Not that I am complaining; I find it exciting that not only am I on a path to shift but the “forces that be” are with me also.

Some shifts…my second business seems to be taking root; we got a real order for a store and that was is so exciting! Much of my shifting has to do with how I view my businesses–the day job business and the passion one.  It has been a real shift for me to focus on the passion business. You would think that would be easy given it is a “passion” and all, but reality for many of us is that we don’t focus on where our passion lies.  Focusing on shifting this has had to be a deliberate thing for me; it is still not easy, but I am seeing the benefits.

Another BIG shift… my last blog I shared about going away for the weekend (that was end of March) for our anniversary.  I blogged on marriage, love and all that stuff. Funny thing is that we did go away, but rather than wine and roses (although we had that too), we bought a house in Indiana with 6 acres of land.  Oh my goodness!

The move to Indiana has been in the planning and we actually committed to this as part of our paradigm shift for the year.  We will be closer to home (relationships #3), it is good for our finances (#4), and it definitely fits in with our exit plan goal (#7).  Moving to Indiana is also about simplifying which I am committed to. The house is in a little town of 3500. I can truly focus on my dog treat business as this is a town that has many small businesses and farmer’s markets.  There are so many things that are aligning with this.  I promise to continue to blog on this.  I find it inspiring just watching the pieces fall into place.  I have visioned this move and this house and this life style for quite some time.  It is outlined on mind maps in my office and right now, in 2011, I am being given the opportunity to step into it.

It is not to say it is not scary along with thrilling and exciting.  After all it is not a shift- it is an earthquake.  Everything under me is shifting, nothing is solid except for us walking into our dream together. Have you ever stepped into your dream or vision with one big gigantic leap?  How did it feel?  How did you feel?

Spending Time on Things I Like…

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Spending time on things I like is NOT a waste of time.  Yes, it is in my personal commandments and needs a place of honor there actually!  I need this full sentence written out so that I can remind myself constantly of this fact.  How often do I put off doing things I like because some other need is out there.  In my world I can make these “other needs” seem demanding, critical and something that needs me RIGHT NOW.  What about the stuff that I want to do?  Shouldn’t those things get full attention?  Is that selfish?

The opposite actually is true.  Selfish is being so self absorbed that you start to believe that other people’s things cannot be complete without your intervention or input.  How many times do we invoke ourselves where we shouldn’t be?  Perhaps if I concentrate on the things I really want to do I can better weigh out what I really should be doing.  Sometimes those things will be for others, sometimes they will be just for me but at least they will be measured by reality rather than some elevated ego driven thing that tells me “I must do it all or nothing will get done.”   When I really think about it I can see how absurd that thinking is.

Spending time on things I like gives me clarity on my life purpose, it causes me to have a positive attitude and outlook, it helps me really get into the flow of my own life and what my gifts and talents are.  That makes not only a great use of time, but a NECESSARY use of time. What do you spend time on that is for you?

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